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Comic Con 2016

Happy Sunday! I hope you are enjoying a wonderful weekend. There are so many ways to celebrate your time off, whether it is attending an event, creating some art, hanging out with family and friends, or reading. What are you doing with your time this weekend or when you have time off? I decided to have some fun because having fun is a way to practice self-care.

Andrew and I attended Comic Con yesterday in New Orleans. We had a great time checking out merchandise, seeing what is new in gaming, and getting a peek at the celebrities that were inJeremy Renner attendance this year.  My goal was to get a glimpse of the actor Jeremy Renner who has starred in films like American Hustle, Mission Impossible, and Marvel’s The Avengers. Andrew and I took a picture with Scott Wilson (Hershel, The Walking Dead) and sat in on a panel featuring William Shatner (Captain Kirk, Star Trek). Mr. Wilson was very sweet, and Mr. Shatner was hilarious. Andrew played in a video game tournament for a new PlayStation 4 game called Naruto Ultimate Ninja Storm 4. While he did not advance to the Scott Wilsonsecond round, he had the opportunity to preview this game which he preordered last week. Both Andrew and I bought a couple of items. I found an X-Files t-shirt! If you do not already know, I am a huge X-Files fan, and I am super-excited because the show is coming back on television this month for a six-episode revival. Needless to say, I am stoked!

As for today, I am practicing some more self-care by doing a couple of activities I thoroughly enjoy: writing and reading. Of course, I do have a few tasks to complete (laundry, bills, chores); however, they will not consume all of my day. As you know, I am participating in The Busy Boycott. The first week, I did not talk about being busy at all. I caught myself several times about to utter the words “I’ve been busy” or “super busy” when someone asked how I was doing. Last week, my challenge action was to DO LESS. And, doing less is exactly what I did even with having to go back to work. I have made the decision to only stay at school until 4:00PM unless I have a meeting or event that requires me being there longer. I cannot eliminate my current job; however, I can eliminate working an inordinate amount of hours. What am I compromising for the sake of my busyness? The answer is my health, relationships, and creativity.

Innovation is my theme this year. Baby steps are what I will be taking the next few weeks to achieve some of the changes I want to see in 2016.  Enjoy what is left of the weekend, my dear readers. Happiness!

“The expectations of what we can get done, and how well we can do it, are beyond human scale.” ~ Brene Brown

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One activity I get a kick out of doing is taking quizzes on Facebook. Last week, I took the “What is your word for 2016?” quiz. My word of inspiration for 2016 is INNOVATION. Innovation is the action or process of innovating or changing. According to the author of this quiz, I will find inner peace and harmony this year. Therefore, I have decided that my theme for this new year will revolve around INNOVATION (change, transformation, creativity, breakthrough). At this point, all I have is a theme; no real action plan, but some ideas which I hope will blossom as the year progresses. I have been down this path of change before when I took my hiatus from teaching a few years ago, and that journey was bliss; yet, it was short-lived because as soon as I started teaching again, I began neglecting my personal life and started back down that old path to burn out from working too many hours, feeling overwhelmed, and not practicing self-care.

One of my first steps towards innovation is signing up for The Busy Boycott on “Be More with Less” (http://bemorewithless.com/). It is basically a free challenge to try and become less busy. Each week Courtney Carver will send out a Challenge Action for the week. The first challenge action: stop talking about it. I am extremely guilty of telling everyone how busy I am when asked how I am doing. I also have to contemplate what I am compromising for the sake of busyness.

My second step towards innovation is financial. I have signed up for a free on-line workshop with Smart Cookies (http://smartcookies.com/) called “Crush Your Money Goal in 2016.” The webinar is Tuesday, 05 January. If you are interested, there is still time to sign up. There is a morning and an evening session. In addition to the financial advice workshop, I am participating in another “52-Week Money Challenge” to save money for a new treadmill. Two years ago, I saved money for our family trip to Universal using this method of saving.

My third step towards innovation is reading The Book of Awakening: Having the Life You Want by Being Present to the Life You Have by Mark Nepo. I absolutely enjoy reading devotional books. They provide a daily dose of inspiration. This particular book offers brief passages each day with ideas for meditation and contemplation. I have already had an aha moment, and it is only 03 January.

I hope, dearest reader, that you have thought some about what will inspire you to action this year. I am taking baby steps by first feeding the soul. Then, I will venture down the path of change a little more. Happiness!

“Innovation is not the result of chance, it’s the result of action. It’s NOT a thing to wait for. It’s a thing to do.” ~ Phil McKinney

 

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“Instead of focusing on how you got where you are, you’ve got to shift your attention to where you’d rather be.Danielle LaPorte

I guess I had too much time to ruminate since the school year ended in May. It kind of had me in a state of paralysis. Regrets, fears, and failures bubbled up and simmered just at the surface making it difficult to enjoy the present moment.

Like many people, I struggle with the past; it creates a holding pattern for me. I stagnate. Procrastination takes over and before you know it, two weeks have passed and I feel quite guilty for wasting the time focusing on my shortcomings and missed opportunities of my past. And, who the hell cares? According to Danielle Laporte in her blog post on getting unstuck, “Sometimes you can’t see why you were stuck until after you get unstuck. Hindsight and high-sight solves a lot of mysteries. In the mean time, you’ve got a new story to write, and it looks nothing like your past.”

I’d rather be writing, scrapbooking, acting, and organizing my home. I’d rather be in shape, healthy, and running/exercising on a regular basis. I’d rather be spending time with my children, family, and friends.

This week I got back on the bike (don’t own a horse) and started doing things I’ve put on the back burner since I went back to teaching last fall. I’m walking again to get my legs ready for running. I’m writing my first blog post since August. I organized my office/scrapbook room so I can start scrapbooking on a more regular basis. (I’ll blog soon about the convention I attended in June.) I’m signed up for an improv class. I met up with friends for lunch.

School starts in four weeks. I must find balance this year; otherwise, I will get stuck again. I struggle with balancing my job as a teacher with other areas of my life. I do NOT like the way it makes me feel. Currently,  I’m reading One Month to Live: Thirty Days to a No-Regrets Life by Kerry and Chris Shook. It is teaching me about “living the dash” in a more meaningful way.  The dash represents our life between birth and death. What would you want your dash to say about you?

It feels terrific to be back. I’ve missed blogging. Wishing you, my readers, a wonderful summer. Happiness!

 

“Make the necessary adjustments for your life to become more meaningful.”           ~ Danielle LaPorte

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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IMG_3398Yep, zombies killed the slug. The slug living inside of me.  Apparently, I hit a plateau (or, a serious case of procrastination) in several areas of my life including blogging. My last post was on April Fool’s Day. Where has the time gone? I need to get back to blogging, exercising, eating clean, and completing projects on a more regular basis. I’ve allowed other things, like being a slug, get in the way. And, I’ve missed you my dear readers.

Back to zombies! My hubby, Shelly, her hubby IMG_3395and their two daughters (21 and 10), and I ran the Zombie Run Sunday morning at City Park in New Orleans. I woke up at 3:45AM, got dressed, ate breakfast, and prepared myself for the event scheduled to begin at 7:00AM. Runners affixed three red balloons stamped with a heart to a belt they wore for the race. Runners who crossed the finish line with at least one balloon still attached to their belt survived the race with their brains intact. Sadly, I did NOT survive. The only zombie bait in our group who made it were my hubby and Shelly’s ten-year-old. Regardless of who did or did not survive, we all had a TERRIFIC time running away from zombies.

Back to procrastination! Apparently, I’m not the only one experiencing a plateau. Last week I read two blog posts and an article in Oprah about getting unstuck. Derek Halpern’s video, How to Stop Procrastinating, on Social Triggers was not only entertaining, but confirmed what I had been doing the last couple of months…procrastinating. According to Halpern, “people procrastinate because there is nothing at stake.” He suggests putting something at stake for motivation.

Sunday afternoon Shelly called and asked if I wanted to go to the gym early (5:15AM) Monday morning  to take an RPM class. I agreed and put my word at stake by telling her not only would I be there, but I would also pick her up on the way to the gym. As tired as I was Monday morning, there was no way I was not showing up and leaving my BFF in her driveway in the dark waiting for me. We took the class!

Do I think I’m cured of procrastination? No. However, I do think putting something at stake works. So, my dear readers, if you find yourself procrastinating this week, put something at stake and see if it motivates you to take action. Happiness!

“If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.” ~ Bruce Lee

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“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.”             ~ Alexander Graham Bell

I discovered the above quote this morning, and it spoke to me loudly and clearly. For the last few months since I started my new job, I’ve been looking back longingly upon the closed door. On the surface, I’m grateful to have a job; however, when I delve deeper, I must admit I have not fully accepted some of the changes the job has made in my life. I miss my flexibility. And, by focusing on what I’ve lost by taking this job instead of what I’ve gained has put me in an underlying funk. Sure, it has presented some challenges, but it also has provided some opportunities. So starting today, my goal is to at least “accept” where I’m at on my life journey right NOW, in the present. Not where I was a few months ago or where I think I’ll be in a few months down the road. According to Eckhart Tolle, “Acceptance means: For now, this is what this situation, this moment, requires me to do, and so I do it MH900441932willingly….Performing an action in the state of acceptance means you are at peace while you do it.”  I have to adjust my attitude. Tolle says, “The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it.” Whew! I’m happy I spotted the open door before it was too late.

I’m off work today, and that’s no April Fool’s joke.  My little guy and I are going to the movies this afternoon to see The Croods. Afterwards, we plan to work out at the gym. He’ll go to the Fit Kids class and I’ll run/walk. Yep, after two weeks of doing absolutely nothing but exercising my jaw, I’m getting back on the program. This morning I pulled out the scale, my food journal & training log, the club’s exercise schedule, as well as my health & fitness goals. The bad news: I weighed in this morning at 138.5 pounds (gained back 12.5 pounds since December). The good news: I’m getting back on track TODAY.

Two interesting blog posts pertaining to health & fitness: Fool Proof Diet Reboot by Yvette Quantz of Food Therapy and The 38 Best Methods of Successful Exercisers by Leo Babauta of zenhabits.

Whatever the day brings, approach it with the right attitude. In my opinion, this is easier said than done. Remember, I just discovered the open door today. However, strive for acceptance of the situation and don’t let your thoughts about the situation dictate how you will feel. Happiness!

“Breaking old habits and forming new ones always takes time, but it is worth it in the end.” ~ Joyce Meyer 

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MC900389392When setting goals for this year, I listed a few for my home. After work, I spend the majority of my time at home. The goals for my home deal with simplicity and preparation for a home makeover. I would like for my family and I to develop a way of living which embraces minimalism. My list of goals includes:

  • Minimize stuff: I want to spend the next nine months going through my house, room by room, purging STUFF. The goal is to donate, trash, use, or organize the stuff. Then minimize what is brought in the house from that point.
  • Make Repairs/Finish Unfinished Projects: My hubby loves projects, especially when it involves building something. And, he is awesome at planning the projects and starting them; however, he is NOT so awesome at completing them. 
  • Learn to Paint like a PRO: I have always wanted to learn how to paint properly. I would like to take a class at Lowe’s or Home Depot and learn how to paint the rooms in my house like a professional. Sometimes, just painting a room is all that is needed to spruce it up.
  • Bookcases: This year I plan to hire my Daddy to build my bookcases. As most of my friends know, I’m a bookaholic. I love books and plan to purge my collection; however, I will still have oodles of books that need to be placed on shelves instead of piles.  I’m hoping this project can be started over the summer after Barry finishes building his deck.
  • Redecorate Plan: If the first four goals get accomplished, I want to create a redecorating plan for 2014. It will not be anything elaborate because the main goal is simplicity. It will concentrate on the inside of the house.
  • Purchases: My hubby and I need a new bed with a headboard. We also need curtains in our bedroom to block out the light caused by a neighbor living behind us. The light he installed in his backyard is so bright it illuminates our entire bedroom, and I can’t sleep. We now have sheets tacked over our blinds. They are not the most attractive window treatments.

Since I have a couple of days off from work, I will start in my bedroom and work my way to my master bathroom and closet. Barry will be working on his deck; however, if it rains, I will suggest he start working on his closet, as well. The main hurdle for me will be eliminating the attachment I have to some of this stuff. This will be a wonderful opportunity to practice the power of NOW. Happiness!

“Have nothing in your homes that you do not know to be useful or believe to be beautiful.” ~ William Morris

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A few weeks ago, I received an unexpected gift in the mail. It was a postcard from a local health club offering two free memberships for one month. The offer seemed too good to be true. Curiously, I called the health club to see just what the “catch” was for this unbelievable offer. Surprisingly, there were NO strings attached, NO credit card numbers given, and NO contracts signed. My hubby, Andrew, and I were all given a one month pass for full access to the club. And, they included a pass for Barry, Jr. since he would be home on leave. What an awesome gift! We had been interested in joining this club ever since it opened a few years ago, so this was the perfect way to try it out.

Shortly after we received our passes, we received another unexpected gift in the mail from the health club. This time we received a credit card waiving the enrollment fee, as well as giving us the entire month of January free if we decided we would like to become full-time members of their club. Unlike our first gift, this one had strings attached; however, they weren’t unreasonable. We just had to decide if we wanted to become full-time members by the end of the year. Thankfully, we had a couple of weeks to make that decision.

Since then, Andrew and I have been using the free membership with much enthusiasm. He has been taking a Kid Fit class which is offered four days a week. He absolutely loves the class activities, as well as going to Kid’s Club afterwards. He is making new friends and getting fit at the same time. And, he has even had the opportunity to swim in the heated pool. I have taken a couple of Body Pump classes, run on the treadmill several times (either raining or too cold to run outside), and met with a personal trainer to talk about my fitness goals, learn some core exercises, and learn how to use some of the cardio machines besides the treadmill. I get two more sessions to learn about the weight machines and reevaluate my progress after six weeks. Andrew and I love it! So, we signed up on Sunday to become members for one year. Unfortunately, my hubby did not sign up with us. He hasn’t used his free pass since he received it. He tells me he will attempt to visit the club before his pass expires. The good news is he can join if he decides he loves it as much as Andrew and I do.

What a wonderful way for my family and I to end 2012 and begin the new year! And, what a terrific way for me to continue improving the health and fitness area of my life. However, I must confess I’ve allowed myself to be overly indulgent this Christmas season, somewhat lax on my exercise schedule, and have eaten more sugar than veggies lately. I’m WEAK when it comes to all the goodies you receive during the Christmas holidays! The silver lining….all the bad stuff will be out of my house and out of the church office by the end of this week. The dust will settle, rather the needle on the scale will swivel uncontrollably for a moment adjusting to my slight weight gain, and I WILL vow to redeem myself and get back on track. However, for the time being I cannot and will not get on that damn scale.

This has been a terrific year for me and my family. My hubby and I both got new jobs, we are all in good health, and we receive so much love and joy from our family and friends. We have been blessed in many, many ways. And while we did have to say good-bye to Ming, we are grateful and celebrate the nineteen years she was a part of our family. We continue to cherish those who are so special to us and look forward to a new year of possibilities. And, let me not forget my dear readers. YOU ARE AWESOME! Thank you for your support and encouragement. Wishing you much love, joy, and happiness! ~ Kat

“And now we welcome the new year, full of things that have never been.” ~Rainer Maria Rilke

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Unfortunately for me, I have not seen 125 pounds on the scale, yet. I know…amazing how that number is eluding me. I’m not giving up; however, I cannot keep weighing myself every single day. It is tedious, discouraging, and driving me bonkers. After reading Danielle LaPorte’s blog post Why I Gave Up Chasing Goals, it made me think about my real goal. Why did I set out to lose twenty-eight pounds? Was it really about the number of pounds lost OR was it  how I wanted to feel when I made the commitment to exercise on a regular basis and change my eating habits? I decided that my real goal all along has been to be healthy, have more energy, get off the reflux medication, feel good about myself on the inside, as well as the outside.  

The scale has its purpose. However, there are many factors that affect one’s weigh-in. You cannot always control those factors. This is my daily weigh-in for the last ten days:

12/2: Goal Date – 126 lbs.
12/4: 127 lbs. – contest started
12/5: 127 lbs.
12/6: 125.5 lbs.*
12/7: 127 lbs.
12/8: 126.5 lbs.
12/9: 126.5 lbs.
12/10: 129.5 lbs.
12/11: 128.5 lbs.
12/12: 127.5 lbs.
12/13: 127.5 lbs

I’m not going to rely on the scale as much as I will on how my clothes fit. I do NOT want to be a slave to the scale.  

I have two winners of my contest. The person who guesses the number or is closest to the number wins a prize. Well, I had two people guess 3 days. I am awarding both Mary and Ming a $15.00 gift card to Target. On the third day I was 125.5 pounds. In my mind, 125.5 pounds is close enough to 125 pounds. Congratulations and thanks for participating in my little contest. You two have given me lots of encouragement and support throughout this journey.

When I finally do reach 125 pounds, I plan to take a picture. Just to say I did it. Again….the goal is to feel good. I hope everyone is having a spectacular week, especially with the weekend starting tomorrow. Happiness!

“The foundation of a good relationship with intentions & goals is keeping in mind that the primary aim of setting and working toward them is to feel the way you want to feel.”  ~ Danielle LaPorte

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I cannot believe it has been two weeks since my last post. I’ve been extremely busy trying to balance my home life with my new job. Folks, I’m basically treading water. I’m doing what needs to be done each day; however, I haven’t quite gotten into a routine, yet. Thankfully, I do not have to bring any work home with me. Despite the discombobulation, I’m happy. And, grateful! I have a job, and I have a job I really enjoy. Eventually (I hope), my life will fall more into a routine. I just feel like I’m running out of time each and every day, and I cannot accomplish everything I need to do. 

My theory as to why I am struggling with time, or lack of time seems to revolve around the time change, as well as the cold weather. Before daylights savings time ended and it turned cold, I got up at 4AM. This allowed me to exercise and get a big jump on the day and all the day had to offer. Generally, I went to bed between 9PM and 10PM. All was well with the world. Unfortunately for me, this is no longer the case. I’ve been exercising in the afternoons now because I cannot get out the bed, and I refuse to run in the dark when it’s cold. I confess…I’m a wuss. Saturday, I waited until 12:30PM to go for my run. The day was absolutely gorgeous and the temperature was perfect. During the week, I have to rush to get home and run before it gets dark, take care of pets, take care of Andrew and Andrew-related stuff, eat dinner, take care of household obligations, etc. I find that by 8:30PM, I’m ready for bed. Literally, I’m falling asleep doing stuff. I find myself sleeping more. I attribute this to it getting dark early and the cold weather. All I want to do when it gets dark in the evening is hibernate. Maybe, I’m part bear. When I get home at 4:30PM and go to bed at 8:30PM, I’m not getting everything done.

The good news….it’s okay. I just have to be more creative with my time and prioritize. I refuse to use my new job or the time change as an excuse not to exercise, not to get together with family and friends, not to watch The Walking Dead (although I did fall asleep in the last few minutes of Talking Dead). I could have skipped lunch with one of my dearest friends yesterday and missed out on great conversation, as well as eating squid steak (amazing) and sushi; and stayed home to clean my house. However, the time with my friend was more important to me. I don’t want to take my family and friends for granted. Eventually, my house WILL get cleaned (family arrives on Wednesday…amazing how fast you can clean your house when you have company coming to spend the holiday with you.) I took today as my REST day so I could write this blog post. All is well with the world. The key is to stay PRESENT and enjoy the moment.

I’m getting close to achieving my weight loss goal. Last week, I weighed in at 128 pounds. Yesterday, I weighed in at 127.5 pounds. I have two more weeks to meet my goal of 125 pounds. I’m hoping I can do it. I had an endoscope done on Friday. My last endoscope was four years ago. My gastrointestinal doctor wants to see about taking me off the reflux medicine. My esophagus, stomach, and duodenum were normal. Biopsies were taken from all three areas. I should have the results in about fourteen days. She discovered a small hiatus hernia. I have to continue my medication until I see her in two months. She will prescribe a program to wean me off the meds to prevent rebound reflux. If all goes as planned, I can wait five years to repeat the upper endoscopy. Getting off the medication and preventing reflux is one of the factors to why I lost weight. I dislike taking medication, and I dislike the effects of reflux even more.

My dear readers I must bid you adieu until next time. Thanksgiving is in a couple of days. Let the upcoming holiday inspire you to see the blessings you are given everyday. Happiness!

“Excellence is an art won by training and habituation. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an action but a habit.” ~ Aristotle

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On Sunday morning I ran later than usual, so I had the opportunity to experience a beautiful sunrise. I decided at that moment when the first rays of light were coming up that I prefered sunrises. Naturally, this is not set in stone because I can imagine a sunset in the right place can be quite beautiful, as well. At this point in time, I’ll stick with sunrises. For me, a sunrise signifies more than just a new day. It is hope and a clean slate. Whatever mistakes, shortcomings, or failures the day before seem to have faded away. The sunrise caused an intense feeling of gratitude within me. I was given another day. Another day to spend with my family, stay connected with friends, and enjoy the many blessings of the day.

What do you prefer…sunrises or sunsets? Why? I would love to know. Leave me a comment below.

If you noticed, I am a little delayed in posting this week. It was not my intention, but time just slipped away from me. On Saturday night I directed the Showboat Auction at WYES-TV in New Orleans. It is one of my favorite places to work because some of my favorite people work there. I went to sleep later than usual Saturday night, which meant getting up later on Sunday morning. I got caught up in the day’s activities. Sunday came and went. Monday came and went, as well as Tuesday. I had plans to blog at BAM on Wednesday; however, received an early morning call to substitute for Kindergarten. I agreed. You agree to crazy things like spending the day with twenty-one kindergarteners when you need income. They are like ants. Always busy. It is Thursday, and I’m at BAM blogging away. Honestly, I haven’t been blogging the entire time. I’ve been checking e-mail and movie times, while stealthily eavesdropping on other people’s conversations. Okay, stealthily is a bit CIA; I just didn’t make direct eye contact. HA! Unfortunately, I didn’t get any good information. However, there is an early showtime this Sunday for the new Alex Cross movie coming out this weekend.  

Update on Mission Weight Loss:

At Sunday’s weigh-in, I was 132.5 pounds. No loss or gain for the week. As for my run/walk schedule this week, I graduated to running a full thirty minutes. Essentially, this means I can run three miles. I ran both Monday morning and Wednesday morning this week. I always warm up with a 10-minute walk and cool down with a 5 to 7-minute walk. I’ll stick with being a 30-minute runner for a while. I haven’t found a race, yet. I’m thinking it may be early next year. It would be fun to run the Crescent City Classic in 2013. I haven’t run that race in many years. Although it’ a 10K race,  I have plenty of time to train. However, I would like to do a couple of 5K races first. I don’t want to get too ahead of myself.

I also wanted to share with you that I have become quite passionate about red seedless grapes. In the past, I’ve always eaten green seedless grapes. Last month at the teacher preview party for the school’s Book Fair, I ate some red seedless grapes. YUM! No more green grapes for me. Now, if I could just get my hands on some satsumas.

Oh, my wonderful readers, enjoy the remainder of the week. Find joy each day, even in the simple things of daily life. For today, sipping on a Skinny Mocha Latte brought me joy. Happiness!

“He who kisses joy as it flies by will live in eternity’s sunrise.”  ~ William Blake

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