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As my dear readers who have followed me over the years know, I struggle with time. It eludes me constantly. I am continuously amazed by the fleeting moments of my life whether those moments are enjoyable or miserable. Of course, I should have a firmer grasp on my time because after all, it is my time. However, the reality of the situation is I do not completely own all of my time. There will be those among us that argue how you spend your time is a choice. And, I somewhat agree with that assessment. I need to eat and clothe and shelter myself; therefore, I need to work in order to obtain those basic needs. As a result, time must be set aside to work. We all know that all of our time is not spent at work, so we must be good stewards with the time that we have left over at the end of each day. This is easier said then done if you take care of children, pets, or elderly parents.

Having children was a choice for me. I consider my two children the two most precious gifts that God has given me. However, when I made that choice, I was not 100% clear about how much of my time would be invested in their care and well-being. For a period of their life, the time spent on me was no longer flexible. It was no longer just “me” because I had become a parent. I was now responsible for these little people, and I not only determined how I spent my time, but also how they spent theirs. Many of the decisions I made in my life were based on taking care of my children. Consequently, I shelved a few of my dreams, so I could provide opportunities for my children to explore their own dreams. And, watching them over the years experience those opportunities has been a delight for me. They have both made me proud to be their mother.

ConcessionsAndrew is traveling to Germany, Prague, and the Swiss Alps with STA during spring break of 2019. He along with the other travelers were given the opportunity to work concessions at the LSU home games this football season. Each game, they will receive a percentage of the sales to help pay for their trip. Crazily, I also signed up to help. I have worked concessions over the years at STA for Barry’s cross country meets and at Southeastern for Andrew’s Boy Scout troop; however, nothing prepared me for working LSU’s concessions. Last Saturday was our first time working the concessions. Firstly, I had never been to LSU Stadium, so I was clueless about its size. A huge stadium equals a huge number of people. Secondly, we were understaffed for our first game. Thirdly, it was hot and humid. By the end of our shift, we were all extremely hot, thirsty, and worn out. All things considered, we survived and made some moolah. And, personally I thought it was fun. I enjoyed working with the STA crew and felt satisfied with the results of a job well-done. In fact, so much so, that I plan on doing it again.

I do the things that I do for my children because I want them to experience some of the opportunities that I did not have during my childhood. Soon, Andrew will graduate from high school, and I’ll be able to begin unshelving my own dreams. Eventually, I will gain back more time for just “me,” and it is important that I make good choices with how I spend it. Time may be elusive; however, time is also of the essence. Make the most of your time, so it feels well-spent, dear reader. Happiness!

“The days are long, but the years are short.” ~ Gretchen Rubin

 

 

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Hello, my dear readers! Remember me. It has been over a year since my last blog post. I apologize for being away for so long. I have no excuses except that I did not do a terrific job of practicing self-care this past school year. I’m what Gretchen Rubin would call an Obliger. Unless I have something at stake in my areas of self-care, I will make work or family obligations a priority over other areas in my life. This type of prioritization clearly equals burn out. Therefore, this summer I did nothing but practice self-care. Now, on the eve of reporting back to school for workshops, assignment changes, and classroom preparation, I am singing (humming is more like it) the summertime blues. Because for me, the summertime allows a more flexible schedule and the ability to move at a more comfortable pace. Today, I will wallow in the wonderful memories I created this summer. Let me share with you the highlights of my respite from school.

June provided relaxation, entertainment, and creative expression. 

Relaxation: stayed up later/slept later, read a book about habits, walked daily, had lunch with a friend, and watched more television

Entertainment: Barry, Jr. and I booked a room in New Orleans and attended a concert. It was the first time the two of us did something like this together. After parking the car and checking into the hotel, we dined at the Hard Rock Cafe. Afterwards, we took a taxi to the Civic Theatre to rock out with Rob Zombie. Awesome! Then we walked over to Bourbon Street to check out the sights. The next morning we visited the Aquarium. The penguins, seahorses, and otters are my favorite. Before heading home, we ate a scrumptious meal at Drago’s.

Later that week, my boys and I went to a Zephyrs baseball game. It was the first time for Andrew, and he absolutely enjoyed it!

Creative Expression: I took a weekly acting class to exercise my mental muscle and get out of my comfort zone. At the end of the month for four days, I attended the TAC Scrapbook Convention at the Airport Hilton with my BFF and our scrapbooking buddies. I worked on layouts from our Zombie Run, a homecoming dance that Barry, Jr. attended in high school, and our first year we went to Comic Con. I won third place in a page layout contest and donned a tiara.

July provided more relaxation, entertainment, and organization. 

Relaxation: went to bed earlier/woke up earlier, read a book about creating fringe hours, walked daily, had lunches with friends and family, and started re-watching the X-Files to prepare for its reboot in January

Entertainment: movies on Tuesday afternoons with my boys; another Aquarium visit, but this time with Andrew

Organization:  I began to reorganize my scrapbook room and my extensive home library (both are a work in progress). And, I took care of purchasing new uniforms and school shoes for Andrew for his FRESHMAN year of high school. I still have school supplies to buy; however, I will take care of that in the upcoming week.

I move through the summer like I’m floating on a raft on a lazy flowing river with occasional stops along the way. My stress level is much lower, almost nonexistent, and I can take my time with self-care. While I’ve made a promise to myself to be better about self-care during the upcoming school year, I lament the end of my summertime break because I know my relaxed schedule is about to speed up rapidly.

Wishing you my readers, a relaxing Sunday. Happiness!

“You must eliminate self-imposed pressures in your life to enjoy a more fruitful life. You cannot be everything for everyone. Moreover, if you do not take time for yourself, you will flatline. Pursue a life of joy and contentment, and you will be happier, healthier, and more at peace. Making time for yourself is both necessary and fulfilling.” ~ Jessica N. Turner, The Fringe Hours: Making Time for You

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Happy Easter! And, welcome to the season of new beginnings. This is our opportunity for renewal or starting over. Recently (this weekend), I reevaluated my resolutions for the new year after being in a mental cocoon for the last couple of months. I’ve come to realize that my actions since the new year have not aligned with my thoughts, dreams, or goals. I’ve basically been in a holding pattern…sort of a waiting room. Basically, I’ve been waiting to start living to my full potential instead of really living. 

While reading The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle, I have discovered I may be a “habitual waiter”. I want to improve so many areas of my life; however, I’m waiting for just the right circumstances. Unfortunately, I’m wasting my life in the process. So, I’m ready to pick up where I left off. I don’t want to wait anymore to start living. For me, most of the waiting comes from FEAR. The “what if” thoughts creep in causing me to stall and become stagnate becoming an observer instead of a participant.

No proclamations will be made at this moment about how I will go about leaving the waiting room of my life; however, reclaiming the motivation to exercise, eat better, and clear out all the clutter (physical and mental) will be the first step. According to Tolle, waiting is a state of mind. It is inner conflict between the NOW and the future. Everything points to being PRESENT.

I took my first step today. This morning, I completed a 20-minute upper body workout and walked a mile. When I weighed in (first time in months), I was surprised my weight was 148.5 pounds. I really believed I would have crossed the threshold of 150 pounds. Although I’m relieved, it doesn’t warrant cartwheels and confetti. I’m about four pounds shy of weighing what I weighed when I gave birth to my youngest son. And, he’s now ten. However, it is a start or a start over. Exercise and healthy eating must be part of my life like family, work, sleep, etc. It should not be something that has to be squeezed in or negotiated. Instead, it should be seen more as a gift.

 “Most of us go through life as failures, because we are waiting for the “time to be right” to start doing something worthwhile. Do not wait. The time will never be “just right.” Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along.”  ~ Napoleon Hill

 

 

 

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